I saw that title and it pierced me in my heart.
Drop the rock.
Just love the simplicity of it.
It made me think of myself and my clients and our “stories”.
We get attached to our rocks, our stories, our attachments.
I’ve been working with a client named Scott. He is just so much fun to be around. He’s a Brooklyn boy who grew up in a tough family. Scott has a fabulous sense of humor and is a great business coach.
He’s never had problems selling products when he worked for other people, but when he started his own business, it was a different game to try to sell his coaching services — and Scott’s not alone. Learning to own our own value and sing our own praises is a whole different can of worms. And I have yet to meet an entrepreneur who hasn’t struggled with this at least a little.
As we’ve worked together, he has uncovered his “story” about himself. He has this whole “Not good enough, imposter thing,” going on. We’ve also uncovered “that if he was truly a great coach, he would have already made it,” even though his coaching business is literally only a few months old.
I share this with you, dear reader, because I’ve been there and I imagine that you may have been there too. Or maybe you’re there now.
We’re human. So therefore, we have limiting beliefs we don’t even know about! And they’re running the show. This is one reason I love coaching: being coached helps you take the blinders off, so you can see. A good coach will help you raise your awareness.
So I get it and I get Scott.
I have a lot of compassion for his “story”.
I come from a messed up family too.
And I’ve had money issues and self worth issues as well.
In fact, I don’t think I’ve met another human being who didn’t have some of that.
What’s been so amazing is to watch my client’s transformation.
He’s been willing to do the work.
He’s been willing to “try on” concepts as we’ve worked together.
And he gets it; that whatever he is looking for, he will find. If he looks for the negative, he will find the evidence. And if he looks for the positive, he can find that proof too.
After all, we are all human and we all have a deep need to be right, because that is how we survived as a species, even if the belief we are holding onto is not serving us anymore.
He just really saw that his story about not making enough money was really just an excuse to keep him safe and enabled him to avoid getting out of his comfort zone.
As a coach, it is so exciting to see a client’s face when they “get it.” And by getting it, I mean that point when a client sees that what they’ve been telling themselves is not THE TRUTH — that maybe it’s just a story.
What if we could come up with a better story or a mantra?
What if we could pick out the limiting belief of: I don’t have what it takes or I’m just not destined for success or whatever it is for you.
What if really, your “potential” is just a muscle that has not been exercised much or ever before?
What if you just practiced speaking to yourself differently?
What if many of the things you tell yourself is BS and you just need to exercise different muscles?
When Scott got that, his entire energy changed. What if he really was great at sales and he really could double his income?
What if he just had to practice his self talk and work on some new skills?
The look on his face was priceless. That’s why I coach people. For that look.
And I invite you to look for yourself too, dear reader.
What story are you telling yourself? Is it true?
Are you sure?
Do you tell yourself you will make videos after you… get your hair done, lose 5 pounds, feel more confident, get it all together, get your colors done…
What if you were so grounded in your mission and you allowed yourself to totally feel your passion to help people, that you didn’t even worry about how you looked on camera?
And what I know is that when people are speaking from their hearts and they’re totally lit up, they’re beyond beautiful.
So, what are you waiting for?
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